Alle Publikationen
2016
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(2016): Communal and Exchange Relationships. What is the Difference?. In: Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 19 (6), S. 677-683. DOI: 10.1177/0146167293196002
DOI: https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167293196002 Abstract: Replying to Batson (this issue), who argues that the difference between communal and exchange relationships is less than might be imagined, the authors review the communal/exchange distinction, discuss what it does and does not mean, and address specific issues raised by Batson. They conclude, contrary to claims by Batson, that (a) ingratiation cannot account for all the findings supporting the communal/exchange distinction; (b) if desire for a communal relationship leads to ingratiation, that does not contradict the distinction; (c) if communal norms are followed for other than altruistic reasons, that does not undermine the distinction, (d) the difference between communal and exchange relationships is not limited to the breadth of benefits exchanged; (e) the difference between communal and exchange relationships is not limited to a difference in etiquette; rather, the communal/exchange distinction provides a theoretical explanation for the difference in etiquette. The Difference Between Communal and Exchange Relationships:.... Available from: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/258180677_The_Difference_Between_Communal_and_Exchange_Relationships_What_It_Is_and_Is_Not [accessed Apr 11 2018].
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(2016): The Social Etiquette of Sleep. Some Sociological Reflections and Observations. In: Sociology 41 (2), S. 313-328. DOI: 10.1177/0038038507074977
Abstract: This article provides a critical examination of the seemingly counter-intuitive sociological notion of the 'social etiquette of sleep': the socially appropriate and inappropriate, prescriptive and proscriptive, ways of 'doing' sleeping, that is to say, in, everyday/night life. The first part of the article provides a brief discussion of the rationale for a sociological engagement with sleep. The remaining sections then proceed to a detailed sociological account of the 'civilizing' of sleep, the social uses and abuses of sleep, the socially attentive sleeper, the inconsiderate or selfish sleeper, and the anarchic, anomic, deviant or stigmatized sleeper. The article closes with some further sociological reflections on these dormative/normative matters, A sociological engagement with sleep, it concludes, is far from a contradiction in terms.
Keywords: Biologische Marker, Disziplin, Etikette, Etiquette, Schlaf, Soziale Angemessenheit, Soziologie 2014
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(2014): Good manners for nice people. Who sometimes say f*ck. First edition. New York: St. Martins Griffin
Abstract: We live in a world that's very different from the one in which Emily Post came of age. Many of us who are nice (but who also sometimes say "(f*ck)" are frequently at a loss for guidelines about how to be a good person who deals effectively with the increasing onslaught of rudeness we all encounter. To lead us out of the miasma of modern mannerlessness, science based and bitingly funny syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon rips the doily off the manners genre and gives us a new set of rules for our twenty first century lives. With wit, style, and a dash of snark, Alkon explains that we now live in societies too big for our brains, lacking the constraints on bad behavior that we had in the small bands we evolved in. Alkon shows us how we can reimpose those constraints, how we can avoid being one of the rude, and how to stand up to those who are. Foregoing prissy advice on which utensil to use, Alkon answers the twenty first century's most burning questions about manners.
Keywords: Courtesy, Disziplin, Etiquette, Good manners, manners, Populärwissenschaft, Ratgeber, Soziale Angemessenheit -
(2014): Texting everywhere for everything. Gender and age differences in cell phone etiquette and use. In: Computers in Human Behavior 31, S. 314-321. DOI: 10.1016/j.chb.2013.10.053
Abstract: The majority of research on cell phone use has focused on adolescent and young adult users with less attention on cell phone use by those older than 25 years of age. In this study, adult participants from 18 to 68 years completed a survey about their own use of cell phones and the contexts in which they considered cell phone use appropriate. There were age and gender differences in beliefs about the etiquette as to when cell phone use was appropriate. Older participants and women advocated for more restricted cell phone use in most social situations. Men differed from women in that they viewed cell phone calls as more appropriate in virtually all environments including intimate settings. Across all age groups in all communication settings, cell phones were used to text. The only exception was that romantic partners were more likely to receive a call than a text. In the younger age groups, texting communication is so normative that over 25% had dumped or were dumped by a romantic partner. The preponderance of gender similarities point to cell phone usage as a stable communication vehicle for maintaining social contact. (C) 2013 Elsevier Ltd. All rights reserved.
Keywords: Alter, Angemessenheit, doppelter Treffer, Etikette, Etiquette, Favoriten, Gender, Informations- & Kommunikationstechnik, Mensch-Technik-Relationen (MTR), Mensch-Technische Systeme, Mobiltelefon, Observablen/Kriterien für sozial angemessenes Verhalten und dessen Bewertung, Quantitativ, Realtechnik, Soziale Angemessenheit, Technik, Techniknutzung, Telefonieren, Umfrage 2013
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(2013): Samuel R. Wells's How to behave. The classic pocket manual of good manners & model behavior. Avon, Mass.: Adams Media
Abstract: A modern guide to the timeless rules of good behavior In the years since its publication in the late nineteenth century, How to Behave has taught thousands of men and women how to build a strong, noble character and demonstrate model behavior in any situation. Now, in this updated edition of Samuel R. Wells's classic work, you, too, can manifest the traits and manners characteristic of a simpler era. At the heart of Wells's timeless tips, you'll find that a true lady or gentleman must always have a sincere regard for others, good taste, and an excellent sense of self-command.
2012
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(2012): On manners. New York: Routledge
Abstract: Many otherwise enlightened people often dismiss etiquette as a trivial subject or―worse yet―as nothing but a disguise for moral hypocrisy or unjust social hierarchies. Such sentiments either mistakenly assume that most manners merely frame the “real issues” of any interpersonal exchange or are the ugly vestiges of outdated, unfair social arrangements. But in On Manners, Karen Stohr turns the tables on these easy prejudices, demonstrating that the scope of manners is much broader than most people realize and that manners lead directly to the roots of enduring ethical questions. Stohr suggests that though manners are mostly conventional, they are nevertheless authoritative insofar as they are a primary means by which we express moral attitudes and commitments and carry out important moral goals. Drawing primarily on Aristotle and Kant and with references to a wide range of cultural examples―from Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice to Larry David’s Curb Your Enthusiasm―the author ultimately concludes that good manners are essential to moral character.
2011
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(2011) : Politechnology: Manners Maketh Machine In: Hayes, Caroline C.; Miller, Christopher Allan (Hg.): Human-computer etiquette: Cultural expectations and the design implications they place on computers and technology: Boca Raton, Fla.: CRC Press, S. 351-362
Abstract: There is an old English saying that "Manners maketh man." The original quotation is attributed to William of Wykeham and is a simple aphorism that acknowledges the tacit assumption that for human beings to live and thrive collectively, there must be a degree of formalization about their social intercourse. Although the bedrock of such mutual behavior would seem to be the law, our actual sharing of common assumptions goes much deeper. For we must all learn the social conventions first through the mediation of perception, the beginnings of language, and subsequently complex conventions and naming processes. These capabilities are assimilated at our parents' feet. They are the very stuff of maturation, and although the precise conventions are highly culturally bound, the learning process itself cuts across all human experience. Now, into our diverse human cultures come potentially intelligent machines. And in respect of their growth and maturation, we can ask two critical questions. First, to what degree do these nascent centers of intentionality and potential consciousness need to adhere to the principles of human social intercourse? Second, and equally as important, do these machine have a collective of their own which now bestrides all human cultures? If they do, to what degree do they act on us as agents of convergent human cultural evolution? In asking these questions we also have to face the logical antithesis to all human-centered technological approaches, viz, should machines necessarily be made to behave according to human-centered rules? Is this their best mode of organization? Although the latter query might be antithetical heresy to those imbued with the spirit of human factors, it is a proposition we should always be obliged to consider. Overall, this a rather daunting set of issues to face, and so let us decompose the challenges they present so that we can consider them in their various component parts.
Keywords: doppelter Treffer, Etikette, Etiquette, Favoriten, Höflichkeit, Interaktionspartner, Konventionen, Mensch oder Maschine, Mensch-Maschine-Kommunikation, Mensch-Technik-Interaktion, Mensch-Technik-Relationen (MTR), Mensch-Technische Systeme, Politeness, Potential independence of machine rules of behavior from human rules of behavior, Realtechnik, Sozial Intelligente Agenten, Soziale Robotik, Soziosensitive Systeme, Technik, Umgangsformen, Volltreffer, Voraussetzungen für sozial angemessenes Verhalten -
Hayes, Caroline C.; Miller, Christopher Allan (Hg.) (2011): Human-computer etiquette. Cultural expectations and the design implications they place on computers and technology. Boca Raton, Fla.: CRC Press. Online verfügbar unter http://www.netLibrary.com/urlapi.asp?action=summary&v=1&bookid=354637
Abstract: Written by experts from various fields, this edited collection explores a wide range of issues pertaining to how computers evoke human social expectations. The book illustrates how socially acceptable conventions can strongly impact the effectiveness of human-computer interactions and how to consider such norms in the design of human-computer interfaces. Providing a complete introduction to the design of social responses to computers, the text emphasizes the value of social norms in the development of usable and enjoyable technology. It also describes the role of socially correct behavior in t
Keywords: Angemessenheit, Aufsatzsammlung, Aufsatzsammlungen, Computers, COMPUTERS / Social Aspects / Human-Computer Interaction, doppelter Treffer, Etikette, Etiquette, Höflichkeit, Human-Computer Etiquette, Human-computer interaction, Klassiker, Mensch-Maschine-Schnittstelle, Mensch-Technik-Interaktion, Mensch-Technik-Relationen (MTR), Mensch-Technische Systeme, Modelle/Theorien, Online-Publikation, Realtechnik, Sammelband, Social aspects, Sozial Intelligente Agenten, Soziale Angemessenheit, Soziale Robotik, Soziosensitive Systeme, Technik, User interfaces (Computer systems), Volltreffer -
(2011): Etiquette and effort. Holding doors for others. In: Psychological science 22 (5), S. 584-588. DOI: 10.1177/0956797611406444
DOI: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21515739 Abstract: Psychol Sci 2011.22:584-588 PMID: 21515739 Accession: 2011-09890-004
2009
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(2009): Humor theory and the fear of being laughed at. In: Humor - International Journal of Humor Research 22 (1-2). DOI: 10.1515/HUMR.2009.003
DOI: https://doi.org/10.1515/HUMR.2009.003 Abstract: Systematic empirical research into the extent to which individuals in different societies fear being laughed at is new and has implications for humor theory. Humor theorists such as Hobbes and Bergson implicitly assume that such fears were generally at a high level and both Hobbes' superiority theory of laughter and Bergson's view of it as a social corrective depend on this assumption. They purport to be general theories but are in fact the product of the particular societies in which those philosophers' lived and whose mores they took for granted. However, we can use their work to generate hypotheses that can in the future be tested against the comparative empirical data now being produced. In particular we should pay attention is the social variables of shame, face, etiquette and embarrassment on the one hand, and hierarchy, status divisions and power on the other, as probably having explanatory power. aus psycINFO 2009-05381-003 accession number
Keywords: Bergson, embarrassment, Etiquette, FEAR, Hobbes, humor, humor theory, laughter, POWER, Shame, status division, Umgangsformen 2008
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(2008): Etiquette-based medicine. In: The New England journal of medicine 358 (19), S. 1988-1989. DOI: 10.1056/NEJMp0801863
DOI: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18463374 Abstract: Patients ideally deserve to have a compassionate doctor, but might they be satisfied with one who is simply well-behaved? When I hear patients complain about doctors, their criticism often has nothing to do with not feeling understood or empathized with. Instead, they object that “he just stared at his computer screen,” “she never smiles,” or “I had no idea who I was talking to.” During my own recent hospitalization, I found the Old World manners of my European-born surgeon — and my reaction to them — revealing in this regard. Whatever he might actually have been feeling, his behavior — dress, manners, body language, eye contact — was impeccable. I wasn't left thinking, “What compassion.” Instead, I found myself thinking, “What a professional,” and even (unexpectedly), “What a gentleman.” The impression he made was remarkably calming, and it helped to confirm my suspicion that patients may care less about whether their doctors are reflective and empathic than whether they are respectful and attentive.
Keywords: Disziplin, Education, Medical/methods, Etikette, Etiquette, Fachetiketten, Favoriten, Humans, Medizin, Observablen/Kriterien für sozial angemessenes Verhalten und dessen Bewertung, Patient Care, Physician-Patient Relations, Professional Competence, Rolle (Beruf), Soziale Angemessenheit, Zugeschriebene Kompetenz 2004
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(2004): Unspoken rules of spoken interaction. In: Communications of the ACM 47 (4), S. 38-44. DOI: 10.1145/975817.975842
Abstract: Will users willingly engage in a social chat with an animated real estate agent or tell their troubles to a virtual coach? Evidence to date indicates the answer is, for the most part, yes. In the commercial arena, people have shown willingness to engage artifacts such as Tamagotchis, Furbies, and robotic baby dolls in ever more sophisticated and encompassing social interactions. Experience in the laboratory also indicates users will not only readily engage in a wide range of social behavior appropriate to the task context, but that the computer's behavior will have the same effect on them as if they had been interacting with another person [3–5]. This trend seems to indicate a human readiness, or even need, to engage computational artifacts in deeper and more substantive social interactions. Unfortunately, there is no cookbook defining all of the rules for human face-to-face interaction that human-computer interface practitioners can simply implement. However, many of the most fundamental rules have been codified in work by linguists, sociolinguists, and social psychologists (for example, [2]), and exploration that makes explicit use of these rules in work with ECAs and robotic interfaces has begun. By at least being cognizant of these rules, and at most by giving them explicit representation in system design, developers can build systems that are not only more natural, intuitive, and flexible to use, but result in better outcomes for many different kinds of tasks.
Keywords: Computer Science, Etikette, Etiquette, Human readiness/need to interact with machines, Human-Computer Etiquette, Interaktion, Mensch oder Maschine, Mensch-Technik-Relationen (MTR), Mensch-Technische Systeme, Realtechnik, Sozial Intelligente Agenten, Soziale Angemessenheit, Soziale Robotik, Soziosensitive Systeme, special issue, Technik -
(2004): Introduction. Special Issue: Human-computer etiquette: Managing expectations with intentional agents. In: Communications of the ACM 47 (4), S. 30-34. DOI: 10.1145/975817.975840
Abstract: When I hit my thumb with a hammer, I get mad at myself, at the person making me do the work, and at the cruel and malignant universe, but I don’t get mad at the hammer. By contrast, when my computer crashes, or fails to give me a file that I know is there, or tells me that I failed to shut it down properly when it was the one that crashed, I get mad at it. True, if I stop to think about it, I may get mad at the people who designed, programmed, or last updated it, but my immediate reaction is more personal. Even my language, as I write this, is illustrative: I hit myself with the hammer, while my computer does things to me. The computer is, at some level, just a hunk of silicon and plastic- every bit as inert as the hammer. Somewhere between the hammer and the computer lies a threshold of complexity and capacity for autonomous action that, when surpasses, tempts us to ascribe agent-like qualities such as awareness and intent. We interact with agents on a social level and increasingly so with increases in the complexity of behavior and of interaction which the agent affords. Since we cant predict or understand all of an agent's actions, should behave in various roles and contexts. These codes enable us to infer what specific behavior mean, in terms of the agent's intentions and beliefs. Not surprisingly, we have evolved a wealth of such expectations for interactions with the most complex and unpredictable agents with whom we regularly work and live - other humans. Some of these codes are quite explicit- such as the communication protocols in which pilots and air traffic controllers are trained, or the rituals of a religious service- but others subtle and largely implicit. These patterns or rules of expectation are what we call "etiquette."
Keywords: doppelter Treffer, Etikette, Etiquette, Etiquette as rules of expectation, Favoriten, Human-Computer Etikette, Human-Computer Etiquette, Komplexität der Maschine, Konversationskonventionen als Etikette-Erwartungen, Mensch oder Maschine, Mensch-Technik-Relationen, Mensch-Technische Systeme, Modelle/Theorien, Rolle (Beruf), Soziale Angemessenheit, special issue, Technik, Volltreffer -
(2004): Etiquette and the design of educational technology. In: Communications of the ACM 47 (4), S. 45-49. DOI: 10.1145/975817.975843
Abstract: There has been a slow but growing realization on the part of the educational technology research community that designers of educational tools must go beyond the purely cognitive aspects of working with computers and factor in the social and psychological aspects as well. The design of appropriate etiquette in educational systems requires adding an additional layer to the issues of traditional interest to HCI researchers and developers. Etiquette is closely connected to contexts of activity and practice—to the goal/contexts/role patterns that structure interactions in a domain. A better understanding of these patterns [7] is essential to building tact and courtesy into our computer programs. We also need to learn from existing research, particularly that of teacher behavior and its effect on student learning and motivation. For instance, a review of the literature on nonverbal behavior indicates that eye contact, gestures, vocal inflections, body movement, and combinations of nonverbal behaviors conveying enthusiasm, animation, and variation of stimuli can positively affect student motivation, attention, teacher ratings, immediate recall, and achievement [4]. This research can be of great utility in the design of appropriate behaviors for pedagogical agents. However, as the three studies described here suggest, we must be careful not to apply these findings to the HCI context indiscriminately. This strategy, though easy to follow, may not always be the most appropriate. Instead, pedagogical etiquette in educational software must be carefully crafted based on sound empirical research sensitive to the complexities of learning and human psychology.
Keywords: Blickkontakt, Computer Science, Design, Design(theorie), digitale Wissenschafts- und Bildungstools, Disziplin, doppelter Treffer, Erziehung, Erziehungswissenschaften, Etikette, Etiquette, Gestik/Mimik, Intellektualtechnik, Interaktionspartner, Mensch oder Maschine, Mensch-Technik-Relationen (MTR), Mensch-Technische Systeme, Realtechnik, Situationsbedingter Kontext, Soziale Angemessenheit, special issue, Sprachgebrauch, Taktgefühl, Technik, Übermitteln von Gefühlen/Emotionen -
(2004): Etiquette equality: Exhibitions and expectations of computer politeness. In: Communications of the ACM 47 (4), S. 35-37. DOI: 10.1145/975817.975841
Abstract: As much as people crave more human like computers, experimental evidence shows that people do display polite behavior towards computers, preceiving human qualities they don't actually have. The difficulty of explaining why people are polite to dogs opened up an opportunity for a fundamental insight into human computer interaction. If people are polite to dogs, even when such behavior is inexplicable, might people be also be polite to computers? While humans encompass all of these elements, computers, pictorial agents, interactive voice response systems, robot dogs and many other technologies exhibit some of these characteristics and seem to elicit some social responses. Pessimists examine the expansiveness of etiquette and frown at another faulty heuristic that demonstrates the limited cognitive processing skills of people. The author takes a different view: polite responses to computers represent the best impulse of people, the impulse to err on the side of kindness and humanity.
Keywords: Computer Science, Digitalisierung, doppelter Treffer, Etikette, Etiquette, Höflichkeit, Human-Computer Etiquette, Interaktionspartner, Mensch-Technik-Relationen (MTR), Mensch-Technische Systeme, Realtechnik, Sozial Intelligente Agenten, Soziale Angemessenheit, Soziale Robotik, Soziosensitive Systeme, special issue, Technik, Werte -
(2004): Trust and etiquette in high-criticality automated systems. In: Communications of the ACM 47 (4), S. 51-55. DOI: 10.1145/975817.975844
Abstract: Whereas the other articles in this section discuss human-computer etiquette in traditional social interactions involving the use of computers that explicitly strive to elicit a perception of "personhood" from the human participant, we focus on computers that occupy more traditional roles as complex and largely unpersonified machines involved in high-criticality working relationships with humans—where the consequences of failure can be catastrophic in terms of lives, money, or both. Politeness and social niceties are important in many human-human social interactions, but in critical, highly technical work, there is the common misperception that we can "dispense with protocol" and get down to business, even with those who are not particularly courteous. In fact, excessive adherence to polite norms can seem stilted and sometimes frustrating in such settings. Here, we argue the etiquette exhibited1 by non-personified machines (that is, ones largely without human methods of expressiveness such as facial expressions, speech, voice tones, and gestures) and computer-based automation can profoundly affect users' perception and correct, optimal usage of them in work domains such as aviation, manufacturing, and power plant operation, among others. A primary candidate for a mechanism through which machine etiquette can influence usage is user trust [2, 6]. Trust influences when and whether users decide to use automation, and can therefore seriously affect the overall human + machine system reliability, efficiency, and safety.
Keywords: Automatisierung, Design, doppelter Treffer, Etikette, Etiquette, Human-Computer Etiquette, Interaktionspartner, Mensch oder Maschine, Mensch-Technik-Relationen (MTR), Mensch-Technische Systeme, Modelle/Theorien, Realtechnik, Sozial Intelligente Agenten, Soziale Angemessenheit, Soziale Robotik, Soziosensitive Systeme, special issue, Technik, Vertrauen, Vertrauenswürdigkeit einer Maschine, Volltreffer -
(2004): Etiquette, Empathy and Trust in Communities of Practice: Stepping-Stones to Social Capital. In: Journal of Universal Computer Science 10 (3), S. 294-302
Abstract: Creating online communities of practice involves much more than creating software. Software houses online communities of practice activities but social interactions also depend on who is involved, what their goals are, their personalities and the community’s norms and policies. By paying attention to these sociability issues, community members can influence how their community develops. Norms that lead to good online etiquette, empathy and trust between community members provide stepping-stones for social capital development.
Keywords: Digitalisierung, doppelter Treffer, Etikette, Etiquette, Etiquette, empathy and trust as stepping-stones for social capital development, Favoriten, Informations- & Kommunikationstechnik, Interaktion, Mensch-Technik-Relationen (MTR), Mensch-Technische Systeme, Modelle/Theorien, Normen, Online, online-communities, Realtechnik, Soziale Angemessenheit, Technik -
(2004): Etiquette online: From nice to necessary. In: Communications of the ACM 47 (4), S. 56-61. DOI: 10.1145/975817.975845
Abstract: Why is etiquette online important? As Internet settlers form cyber-communities, the importance of etiquette grows. Lack of etiquette is weakening sociability and even destroying online communities. Etiquette online is not just nice to have, it is necessary. Like the pioneers of the wild west, early Internet adopters were a rough and tumble gang. An occasional sarcastic comment, expletive, or confrontational challenge was part of thefun. But times have changed. Today’s settlers flock online in the millions. A single word aptly summarizes these settlers – ‘diverse’. These Internet users come from many cultures and walks of life. They arrive with a mix of expectations using a variety of technologies, which they access in different ways. The new settlers include children and adults, healthy and infirm, eager and reluctant. English-speakers dominate but other languages and cultures are gaining prominence. The number of women matches the number of men. Even, low-income families and those with limited education are beginning to appear (Pew, 2003). This diversity can have its charm, but also can lead to unpredictable encounters, misunderstandings, and frustrated expectations. One person’s clever joke is another person’s offensive insult. Connecting with others tops the ‘to do’ lists for new settlers. Internet shopping, gaming, and searching for information, particularly health information, are also near the top. The new settlers are a social bunch compared with the early pioneers, who focused on programming and information-oriented tasks. Different types of technology require different forms of etiquette (Marx, 1994).
Keywords: Computer Science, Design, Digitalisierung, doppelter Treffer, Etikette, Etiquette, Favoriten, Human-Computer Etiquette, Informations- & Kommunikationstechnik, Internetportale/Blogs, Kontexte mit sozialer Diversität, Mensch-Technik-Relationen (MTR), Mensch-Technische Systeme, Modelle/Theorien, Online, Realtechnik, Soziale Angemessenheit, soziale Medien, special issue, Technik, Volltreffer 2003
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(2003): Politeness. Cambridge, UK; New York: Cambridge University Press (Key topics in sociolinguistics). Online verfügbar unter http://dx.doi.org/10.1017/CBO9780511615184
Abstract: Using a wide range of data from real-life speech situations, this new introduction to politeness breaks away from the limitations of current models and argues that the proper object of study in politeness theory must be commonsense notions of what politeness and impoliteness are
Keywords: Disziplin, Etiquette, Favoriten, Forms of address, frames, FTA Face Threatening Acts, Good manners, Höflichkeit, Höflichkeitsforschung, Höflichkeitsforschung der zweiten Welle, (Im)Politeness Research, Klassiker, Lebensstil, Linguistik, Modelle/Theorien, Politeness Theory and Relational Work, Sociolinguistics, Soziale Angemessenheit, Soziolinguistik, Sprache, Sprachgebrauch, Status / biologische Marker, Zweite Welle 2002
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(2002): The fabulous girl’s guide to decorum. In: NEW YORK TIMES BOOK REVIEW, S. 12-13
Abstract: Good manners will make you fabulous. Good manners will make you sexy. The well-mannered get invited to more dinner parties, see their career aspirations blossom, and have a wider array of friends and eligible suitors. So if you want to become your most fabulous self, read on–The Fabulous Girl’s Guide to Decorum is your ticket to becoming the girl you want to be. Authors Kim Izzo and Ceri Marsh know first-hand that today’s young women require etiquette advice that speaks to their modern sensibilities. Yes, we girls need to know how to write a perfect thank-you note and set a proper table–but we also need to know how to handle a one-night stand, how to ask for a promotion, what to wear at an art opening, and when a budding romance should move from supper to sex. With The Fabulous Girl’s Guide to Decorum, Izzo and Marsh have written the etiquette guide for the new millennium and created the ultimate icon of style for the 21st century: The Fabulous Girl. She’s liberated but chic, impeccably mannered but never a snob, confident but compassionate, full of verve instead of vanity. She’s the epitome of Audrey Hepburn-esque style and savoire faire at the workplace, at a dinner party, and even in the bedroom. The Fabulous Girl’s Guide to Decorum addresses all aspects of urban life, including careers, friendships, families, entertaining, socializing, romance, and sex (these days they don’t necessarily go hand in hand!) and provides invaluable advice on how to navigate these tricky waters with unfailing grace. From what to wear at a power lunch to how to behave at a film premier, Izzo and Marsh address topics such as: ·Coping with an office backstabber ·Taxi and door-holding protocol on dates ·How to handle an affair with the boss ·Hosting the perfect dinner party ·How to handle fair weather friends ·Protocol for first-night sex ·The 10 things an FG will always have in her handbag ·Saving face when a male buddy has become too attached Charming, witty and eminently practical, The Fabulous Girl’s Guide to Decorum is as essential as the little black dress and a must for every young woman’s bookshelf.
1998
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(1998): Narrative analysis of sexual etiquette in teenage magazines. In: Journal of Communication 48 (4), S. 59-78. DOI: 10.1093/joc/48.4.59
Abstract: Expanding on existing research on women's magazines, this essay examines the sexual etiquette developed in advice columns in magazines popular among teenage women. Over a span of 20 years, the advice has changed very little. Serving the rhetorical function of field guides and training manuals, teen magazines limit women's sociality and sexuality within narrowly defined heterosexual norms and practices. The rhetoric of sexual etiquette encourages young women to be sex objects and teachers of interpersonal communication rather than lovers, friends, and partners. Young women are being taught to subordinate self for others and to be contained.
1995
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(1995): Etiquette Books and Emotion Management in the 20th Century. Part Two--The Integration of the Sexes. In: Journal of Social History 29 (2), S. 325-339. DOI: 10.1353/jsh/29.2.324
Abstract: This paper is the second part of a report on a comparative study of changes in twentieth-century American, Dutch, English and German etiquette books, focusing on connections between changes in ranking and formality, especially with regard to classes and sexes, and changes in emotion management. This part concentrates on the diminishing social and psychic distance between the sexes, and on changes in the demands on emotion management in the process of women's emancipation and social integration. A sketch of the expansion of upper- and middle-class women's sources of power and identity focuses on aspects such as the development of codes of behaviour for new situations: dances, dates, the workplace, etc., as women succeeded in getting rid of the system of chaperonage and in 'escaping' from the imprisonment of the 'home'. The concluding sections of this part focus on the intensified tug-of-war between old and new relational ideals and sources of power, and concomitant: feelings of ambivalence in both women and men.
Keywords: Etikette, Etiquette, Favoriten, Gender, Geschichte, Historical shifts of politeness forms, Kulturelle/soziale Rituale, Observablen/Kriterien für sozial angemessenes Verhalten und dessen Bewertung, Ratgeber, Ratgeberforschung, Sexes, Soziale Angemessenheit, Sozialgeschichte, Tanz, Überblick -
(1995): Etiquette Books and Emotion Management in The 20th Century. Part One--The Integration of Social Classes. In: Journal of Social History 29 (1), S. 107-124. DOI: 10.1353/jsh/29.1.107
Abstract: This is the first part of a comparative study of changes in twentieth-century American, Dutch, English and German etiquette books, focusing on connections between changes in ranking and formality, especially with regard to classes and sexes, and changes in emotional management. Direct references to differences in class, status and gender, particularly with regard to feelings of superiority and inferiority, have diminished or even vanished from the social codes as workers and women came to be further integrated into their national states. Within the consequential narrower limits these codes have become more lenient and varied for a wider and more differentiated public: an informalization process. After a preliminary section on etiquette books as a source of evidence, this first report concentrates on the diminishing social and psychical distance between people of different class and rank. It presents examples of changes in what was written on the 'dangers' of social mixing, familiarity, the use of Christian names and 'social kissing'. These examples indicate an expanding social integration and identification as well as a change in the regimes of power and emotions in the direction of increasing social constraint towards 'unconstrained self-restraint'.
1992
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(1992): The Young Economist's Guide to Professional Etiquette. In: Journal of Economic Perspectives 6 (1), S. 169-179. DOI: 10.1257/jep.6.1.169
Abstract: Nearly all advanced graduate students and new assistant professors demonstrate naivety in their nonsubstantive professional dealings. Graduate programs in economics offer courses that lead to written drafts of important research; they teach little about how to refine those drafts and, more generally, about the personal interactions that cut and polish intellectual diamonds in the rough. I provide here a short course aimed at removing that naivety and helping young economists to avoid faux pas that might reduce their success in the profession.
1985
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(1985): A Question of Manners. Status and Gender in Etiquette and Courtesy. In: The Journal of Modern History 57 (3), S. 396-423. DOI: 10.1086/242859
Abstract: During the past fifteen years the scholarly study of manners has become increasingly active. Though the most important contribution to the literature Norbert Elias's The Civilizing Process is, in fact, an older book, it has only recently attracted much attention. l The work of historians has been matched by sociologists such as Erving Goffman and the ethnomethodologists who have uncovered a wonderland of social process in the apparently trivial encounters of "everyday life." What is perhaps more curious than this recent interest in manners is the fact that, with the exception of anthropologists, scholars have so long left manners to the amateurs. From the Renaissance to the French Revolution manners were an essential aspect of the ideal of civilization and were thought worthy of the serious attention of intelligent men. The literary vehicle for the discussion of manners was the courtesy book, a genre that for almost three hundred years, from Elyot to Chesterfield, remained a lively and important strand of English literature. While including discussions of the minor formulations of etiquette, courtesy literature was certainly not limited to these. A variety of different subjects might be examined, but typically the genre concerned itself with the advocacy of ideals of character, accomplishments, habits, manners, and morals-in short, the art of living in society. The steps of a fashionable dance consorted with injunctions to piety, the worthiness of the chase with the importance of Aristotelian moderation, the rules of the table with the requiremenfs of justice. What made the genre odd to modern taste was its mixture of elements of "high" and "low" culture. Manners had not yet been dismissed as trivial and were discussed by essayists alongside the most serious moral ideas without a sense of incongruity and by the greatest writers without a sense of derogeance.